The latest Digiday confessions
series installment presents the professional
perspectives and pet peeves of a
communications executive in their early 30s who is managing a worker in their
mid 60s. Of course, there are plenty of cutting counterpoints and vapid videos regularly published in advertising trade publications, wherein Old
White Guys hype the value of experience and wisdom. It all underscores a
reality that spans the generations: people in communications companies do a
lousy job of communicating—especially with each other.
‘I find myself being their IT support’: Confessions of
a team leader on the pressures of managing older workers
By
Cloey Callahan
The workforce is ageing, and it’s raising new
challenges. How do you work seamlessly with someone when there is a 30-year age
gap while also steering clear of ageism?
Baby boomers – folks currently aged between
57 and 75 years old – are staying in the workforce for longer than people ever
have before. So the gap between the ages of more seasoned workers, as well as
those at the start of their careers will only widen further.
While multigenerational workforces are a
must-have and an asset for any organization, at times, presumptions and miscommunications
can lead to awkward moments. That goes doubly if you’re a young boss.
For the latest installment of our Confessions
series, where we trade anonymity for candor, we spoke to a 33-year-old
communications executive who manages someone in their mid-60s about the
challenges they’re working on overcoming together.
This conversation has been edited and
condensed for clarity.
What is it like working with someone in their
mid-60s?
Largely the average age group [at the
company] is in their 30s. We’ve got some people who are about 10 years younger,
and then we’ve only got a few people who are older. So the older generation is
very much the minority within the whole agency, but they have been here from
the very beginning. There’s one person who has been freelancing and came on
full time. They’ve been put onto my team and there’s a significant [age] gap
between us. It’s the biggest age gap I’ve ever had with someone I’m managing.
It’s come with a whole different set of challenges that I’ve just never dealt
with or had to think about before.
There’s a common stereotype about the older
generation not being able to embrace technology. What has your experience been?
I’m hyperconscious of this because then I
overanalyze that I’m being ageist and if I have an unconscious bias that older
people don’t know how to use technology. But I do often have difficulty getting
them up to speed with the software that we use and I find myself being their IT
support a lot of the time. This person goes to great pains sometimes to explain
to me that they lived through the age of moving on to email, so it’s not that
they don’t know how to deal with new technology. It’s that the technology isn’t
working for them. But I can’t help but notice that no one else in the whole
team has these technical issues.
I really struggle with that because I have
sympathy for it and I have time for it and I understand how frustrating it is.
Something that frustrates me about going hybrid and working from home a lot is
that everyone’s had to become IT specialists and that drives me bonkers. So I
understand the struggle, but it’s frustrating to always hear that excuse as
well as to why they can’t log on or that they’re late.
I ask him [the 60+ staffer] to share his
screen and what to click and how to do it for software issues. But if it’s
beyond that, I often pass it off to HR or IT support because it’s just taking
up too much of my time. I need to just give the problem to someone who is more
familiar with talking through systems and processes because it just takes me a
really long time to figure it out. They do a much better job because they’re
onboarding people all the time.
How have you changed your management style?
I’ve just had to become a lot bolder and
confident with it. For a long time I was quite apprehensive and nervous to
manage him in the way that I manage my other team members where I take the
approach of just being super honest and firm, but fair. I was much more gentle
because I was nervous about being ageist or saying the wrong thing or seeming
patronizing to someone who is older than me. But I’ve come to realize in the
last few weeks that actually that’s not fair on my other team members to see
that I treat him differently. This person does seem to be performing better
with stricter guidelines and they haven’t pushed back saying they know what’s
what because they’re older than me. I need to just manage him the way that I
would anybody else. That’s fairer than trying to adapt.
He does make me think about how we work. I
see the value in the way that he works, which is technically a bit more old
fashioned. But he gets good results often and proves that the way he would go
about something is actually the right way. He just can be slow to get tasks
done and I questioned if I can say ‘this is taking too long,’ and I really
sounded it out. I realized like no, this is just taking too long, it missed the
deadline. Of course I can say that.
You’re a millennial, but how do baby boomers
and Gen Zers work together?
It hasn’t gone well and I’ve had to deal with
that. It’s not that anyone has been rude to each other, but the generation gap
was far too much and they couldn’t work together well. It’s more than a 40-year
age gap and they could not find their rhythm. It was mutually recognized that
they just couldn’t figure it out. With me, it’s more like 30 years and we can
figure it out. We moved things around because the 20-somethings and
60-somethings just couldn’t finish the project together.
It
was chaos. Different working styles and paces. He needs time to really sit with
it and consider the meatier sides of the project, whereas the younger staffer
was just like ‘let’s get it done,’ using tools and technology to move faster.
They both said they felt like the other wasn’t listening. I do put that down to
the age gap more than anything else. They didn’t seem to be able to just joke
around with each other and have fun because ultimately they aren’t on the same
page. Their references are too different. I hate sounding so broad strokes and
stereotypical, but it did happen. That’s why I struggle with this topic.